We All Need A Mirror
Often with clients, I will suggest standing in front of a mirror and with loving kindness, giving themselves some “Love talk”. This idea first presented itself to me through Louise Hays’ book, “You Can Heal Your Life” nearly twenty-five years ago. My mother gave me a copy of the book while I was pregnant with my son.
Louise mentioned how challenging it is for people to do this simple exercise—to look into the mirror and say in the same way one would to a dearly beloved child or friend, “I LOVE YOU”. Of course, I gave it a go and at the time, there definitely was a certain amount of resistance to being TRULY loving toward MYSELF. Could say it to others; MYSELF was a whole other matter.
Over the years, following Ms. Hays’ good words, I slowly let it become a habit of delight! When passing any reflection of myself, I now give a cheerful, “Em, I just love you SO much!” or something of that nature. It FEELS good. It gives me, especially when I am alone, a reflection back of someone who REALLY DOES believe in me, thinks and SAYS that, “Yes, You Will Make It!” “Yes, Things will get better!” “Yes, Life IS good! AND, getting better every moment!” “Yes, You are worth it!” “Yes, You ARE enough right here and right now!” That’s what I get when I look in the mirror now.
What about you? Are you with loving kindness able to SEE yourself in a positive light? Are you able to look through your eyes with the same respect and delight that would be expressed to another dearly beloved?
If so, MAGNIFICENT! And if not, why not start today with just a little wink or nod in front of the mirror! Send a quick glance of Love toward the incredible being who stands before you in all its physical, mental, emotional and spiritual complexity and glory! The fact that we even exist at all is a MIRACLE! Why not experience the Wonder! Look in that mirror, get a GOOD look and say, “I LOVE YOU!” And then be prepared for a healthy feeling of well-being to come flooding in!
Have a week filled with beautiful reflections! Emily
PS–Again, check out Jessica’s affirmations under “Extras” for some really GREAT Mirror Talk! Also, it’s good to remember that what we see in another we would not see if it weren’t in ourselves also!
©2010 Emily A. Easton
Dear Emmy,
This is sooooooooooo BEAUTIFUL. I am just moved to tears. The whole thing is eloquent and grace-filled, the writing, the message, and the photos.
It’s odd as I’ve just started to do this mirror thing lately and it feels really right. Kind. Compassionate. And helps me remember who I REALLY am.
By the way you are beautiful, both inside and out. WOW!! It moves me to tears to see you here. Would love to see these photos. Maybe you could send them when you get a break. Just beautiful.
I know from firsthand experience that you are a gifted life-coach. The best I’ve ever known.
I love you, with all my heart,
Roby
PS I am blown away by how talented you are.
Thanks for YOUR reflection! Delightful to see you here! lol, E
Hi Emily,
I love how easy you advice others to begin…a little wink or a nod. Amen to that. What a wise mother you had!
Thanks, Tess! Love the name of your site! E