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Gentle Loving Kindness for Yourself is a MUST!

Posted by Emily on Jul 27th, 2010 in Uncategorized | 2 comments

Ten days ago while mopping the kitchen floor, I slipped and broke my right thumb (thankfully, not something that happens often in my life!)

I ignore the counter space!

That being my “dominant” hand, this break has put the kibosh on several basic activities—try flossing for instance with you thumb in a splint…or typing with that same splint wanting to get in the way every time you go to hit the “l” and get an extra “m” along with it…to say nothing of applying eyeliner!!! NOT happening! : }

These of course, are minor hindrances in the grand scheme of things and yet it does make one need to call on inner resources of patience, letting go and the releasing of any perfectionist tendencies that one might have hidden away and that are now rearing up demanding that dishes be done and teeth be “properly” brushed (for heaven’s sake)!

It has been a blessing (yes, in disguise!) to see where I still hold myself in disregard. If anyone else had broken THEIR thumb on THEIR dominant hand, I would, with great kindness and generosity of spirit, encouraged them to be patient and gentle with themselves. None of this perfectionist task master stuff anywhere in sight.

So why is it that when it is ourselves, we are so harsh to judge and hold ourselves to task, when what we really need is just a little tender love for ourselves?

I ignore the desk area!

I don’t know WHY. I do know that it is not only possible, it is necessary for health and well-being to treat ourselves with the same love and respect, the same patient attention and the same gentle kindness that we would our dearest friend or a small child who comes to us in pain. We would just do it without a second thought!

And, yes, I did go back and take out allm the extra “m’s” (almmost!).

Have a blessed week breathing in gentle loving kindness for your precious self! Emily

PS–It is also worthy to honor all the positives that come out of this kind of situation–for one thing my left hand is getting some much needed use adn becoming quite dexterous!

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